"Too bad the GHC male allies panel spent less time discussing how men can advocate for women than it did instructing women to advocate for themselves by “speaking up.” (They did, against the tone-deaf panelists.) Ansari’s feminist identification was just “a watered-down version of something so many women have been arguing” for ages, as BuzzFeed’s Katie Heaney noted. (In the tradition of “mansplainers everywhere,” she wrote, he cribbed his definition of feminism from the dictionary.) “As the father of daughters,” Obama apparently needed to create a female human with his very own sperm in order to understand that it’s not OK to beat them. (How far can this dubious claim to feminist identity extend—“as the son of a mother,” “as the boyfriend of a girlfriend,” “as the man who approaches women on the subway”?) "
"Male allies are encouraged to speak up against domestic violence because “men listen to other men,” Macomber found; then again, the idea that male voices are privileged over female ones is part of the problem. Men only seem to flock to feminist activism when the word men is coded into the event or organization title (Men For Choice; Men Can Stop Rape). On the other hand, men who enter female spaces without an explicit invitation may intrude on feminists seeking “a break from their everyday encounters with men.” Men who style themselves as “experts” in feminism overstate their qualifications, but those who insist that their feminism is a “process” and that they will invariably “make mistakes” seem to be granting themselves a license to mess up."
"Macomber notes that when male allies work to “redefine” masculinity—as in the long-running Men Can Stop Rape campaign “My Strength Is Not for Hurting,” which foregrounded the idea that men are real strong—they signal an attempt to participate in feminism without actually shedding their male privilege. But that’s also a politically expedient tactic—it’s why President Obama calls on boys to be “real men” instead of asking them to “dismantle the patriarchy.”"
Picture of Anne Hathaway: "A man told me that for a woman, I was pretty opinionated. I said, 'For a man, you're kind of ignorant.'" - Anne Hathaway
Man comments on a picture of Anne Hathaway: "What a cunt"
A man on why Feminism is a dirty word: "Because we don't live in a patriarchal country other parts of the world are still fucked and need feminism but men and women face the same amount of issues nowa days"
"Womens should demand equality and stop the victim narrative! Tell me one right that men have and women don't..."
"There is no fucking patriarchy! You want equal rights? Okay, try to hit me and I'll punch you in the face, just like a man. If you start crying in front of me I'll make fun of you and call you a little pussy, seeing as that's how most men are treated. Have a problem? Stop whining, suck it up and be a man."
A man on Feminism: "Before there was A patriarchy there was a matriarchy which once ruled the planet and dominated man when he came into being and ever before so man is quite reluctant to give back his control now"
A friend posts: What I got mad about today: the massive Bunz Kinky Zone group budded two man-free groups: a queer BKZ, and a group for feminist women and nb subs. On the very same day, a thread was started on the main BKZ completely validating the existence of the other groups (cue predictable sentiments, including perennial favourites like 'Why are we splitting the community,' 'I'm a man and I'm okay, why are you making this a personal thing about me specifically this is clearly about me personally cmon I'm a feminist it says so in my profile me me me,' 'How are we going to learn about your special little lady issues if we can't see your discussions and make helpful comments from a balanced perspective,' 'It's not my fault you don't feel safe,' 'Yeah but still we're splitting the community, if you make a separate group obviously you can't also be in this one the internet doesn't work like that and I can't see your conversation that I wasn't invited to, this group will DIE because of you,' 'Well if it's such a problem why don't you explain it to me in a way that's easy to understand and take pains not to bruise my delicate ego so I can play devil's advocate while you get angry about this totally abstract hypothetical issue and I flex my logic guns at you in calm and measured tones,' and more!)
"The City of Peterborough has reversed its initial decision to refuse an anti-abortion advertisment from appearing on Peterborough Transit buses."
"“I didn’t expect a girl to be very good at this, but you’re doing great.” “Most women are terrible when it comes to [Insert task here]; you’re doing really well.” “I usually don’t work well with girls — but it’s been great working with you!” Um, thanks? "
"Sometimes, people who don’t intend to criticize do so indirectly by being very, very concerned. Sometimes, these concerns can reveal underlying sexist attitudes. For example, if a man tells a woman that he’s concerned about the way she’s dressed on the pretense that “I’m just worried that other guys will get the wrong idea,” what he’s really doing is slut-shaming her. He's drawing attention to her (from his point of view) promiscuous clothing on the pretense that he’s trying to protect her. That’s patronizing and rude."
"So if a guy tells his female friends that other girls look “slutty,” or insults someone (even a celebrity or a fictional character) for being what he sees as “promiscuous,” he’s implicitly saying “And if you do that, I’ll think you’re slutty, too.”"
"How many times have all of us heard the word “pussy” used to describe someone — male or female — as weak? Or conversely, the phrase “man up” to push someone into being strong or brave? "
"Research has shown that women tend to be interrupted more often than men, and when they do speak frequently (especially in professional situations), they’re often perceived negatively for it. “Manterrupting” may be an awkward term, but it’s a real thing. Most men probably don’t even realize they’re doing it, but when they routinely interrupt or speak over the women around them, they’re sending the message that these women don’t have the right to speak — and even worse, that what they have to say is worthless."
"the “EWW GROSS” reaction shames women for their natural biological processes, perpetuating the feeling among women that they have to keep these aspects of themselves hidden. Women shouldn’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about completely normal aspects of their reproductive health."
"When a woman is angry or upset, a common response is that she’s being too sensitive, hysterical, or melodramatic (or worse, that she’s “just being hormonal”). These kinds of comments invalidate and shame a woman for her emotional responses."
"In our culture, one of the most common and severe ways one can insult a man is to tell him that he’s acting like a girl — that he’s weak, emotional, prissy, or feminine. "
“My life would be 99.8% better if random men just never talked to me.”
"That’s when the thread exploded, mostly with women agreeing with the sentiment that random men telling them that they’re beautiful was unwanted, predatory, and almost always a gateway to other forms of harassment and gender-based violence. But some folks chimed in to add that some of these men intend to compliment women, and that some women appreciate the compliment. "
"Too often, protecting ourselves means acquiescing to male attention and harassment. I would so much rather tell all the men who interrupt my reading to tell me that I’m beautiful to leave me alone, but instead I thank them and smile because I’m terrified of what might happen if I don’t."
"Convincing your girlfriend she's crazy or paranoid is called gaslighting, and it's a dick move. But convincing her she's a robot with artificially implanted human emotions is called bladerunning. It's a Phillip K Dick move."
Tweet: "We beg women to love themselves, but tell confident women to calm down."
Kim Kardashian posts a naked selfie. Some Twitter users called her a "mess" for posting a photo like that when she's a mother to two children, and someone else even posted a version of the selfie that's entirely blacked out, saying he "fixed" it.
About uber: "In one screenshot, a search query for “sexual assault” returns 6,160 Uber customer support tickets. A search for “rape” returns 5,827 individual tickets. Other variations of the terms yield similarly high returns: A search for “assaulted” shows 3,524 tickets, while “sexually assaulted” returns 382 results."
Uber dismisses how many rape and sexual assault complaints it gets and then lies about the numbers.
"Christopher Plaskon, 18, pleaded no contest Monday on charges that he murdered classmate Maren Sanchez in 2014. Sanchez was 16 and a junior at Jonathan Law High School in Milford, Connecticut, when Plaskon stabbed her to death. Sanchez had rejected his invitation to come with him to the prom."
A woman talks about unwanted advances: 'My guy friends think I’m an asshole for always pretending to be in a relationship when I get hit on. "
On an Inclusive RPG group, someone posts about how they're playing GoT the game, followed with how to make Joker in Pathfinder. I Quit.
"Erin Andrews won a major $55 million judgement on Monday after the Nashville Marriott and a stalker were found liable for a nude video of the journalist that spread across the Internet.
Andrews sued the hotel for negligence after a man was given a hotel room next to hers upon request. The man, Michael Barrett, then videotaped her through her door's peephole.
Barrett then posted the video online where it continues to spread. He is currently serving two years in prison after pleading guilty to interstate stalking."
"They found many women dropped criminal law after five years and very few were still practising in the area after 10 years.
"Most shocking to me was, of the women who started doing criminal law in 1996, there were 47 of them. Eight years later, by 2004, only 13 of them were still doing a substantial amount of criminal law," Davies said. "That is an enormous attrition rate.""
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