Day 42: Fucking Bitch

"That’s how rape functions as a powerful means by which the whole female population is held in a subordinate position to the whole male population, even though many men don’t rape, and many women are never victims of rape.

This cycle of fear is the legacy of Rape Culture."

"This article perpetuates that women are victims and do not choose to become these sexual beings and get paid for it." This article talks about how the male gaze treats women like objects.

Man comments on an article discussing the male gaze. "Hahahahahahahahah do something shitty and justify it like an idiot. I'm not sexist because abc and yet you are shut up you privileged white women you get to complain about men and equality while not fighting for draft status. Suck it up buttercup. You are a sexist" 

"Imagine if every day you came into work, and your boss said, “Really fillin’ out those pants today, Jerry,” and he never said anything else. Do you think you’d eventually mention it to HR? Well, now imagine that “Really fillin’ out those pants today, Jerry” was built, systemically, into the entire culture’s attitude toward you from birth onward."

"Amy Schumer’s wonderful sketch, “Last F*ckable Day,” illustrates this concept perfectly: As women age — as their skin becomes more wrinkled, their hair becomes drier and greyer and their body loses its lust factor — they “expire,” much like milk, medicine, makeup, credit cards or a driver’s license. Much like, well, objects." 

A woman’s appearance is the most important thing about her. Her worth is based almost exclusively on what she looks like, how youthful she looks and whether or not she’s f*ckable.

Wonder Woman and Catwoman are walking together. The text reads: Fighting supervillains is a cinch. Fighting misogyny is the real challenge."

On women in NASA: "It was not rocket science: On ships heading into orbit, every ounce matters. Women in general weigh less, eat less food, consume less oxygen, and therefore required less fuel to get into space. Despite the math being in their favor, women were excluded from being considered as astronauts during NASA’s earliest days. These days, women are still a minority at NASA. The team that engineered this summer’s spectacular flyby of Pluto was 25 percent women—very likely that’s the most women on any team in NASA history"

"Last month, an all-female Russian astronaut crew spent eight days together in a mock spaceship to determine how a group of women would interact during space travel as a test run for a 2029 mission to the moon. Sadly, at a press conference preceding the experiment, reporters opted to ask questions on how they would manage without men and makeup for eight days. "

Another man comments on consent taught in sex ed: "Classes on consent are stupid and sexist. It's the girls that are usually instigators or call wolf to get back at someone."

On an image about teaching consent in schools, a man comments: "Can we also include not lying about being raped and ruining the lives of innocent men and not lying about there age which also ruins innocent mens lives"

"Between Two columns of opinions and the results of the Montreal Canadiens, maybe you haven't had time to follow the news. I would therefore remind you of a few highlights the last few days:
- Roosh v calls for an event in over 150 cities around the world. These include, among other things, the legalization of rape if it is committed on private property. The text inviting to the demonstration explaining that attacks against women were to consider.
- the trial of jian gomeshi: after a week of hearings, Canadian justice sets out to victims of sexual assault, and to all the countries, the price to pay to denounce his attacker.
- several young women in fugue make the cuff. They are wanted, and possibly involved in a network of national and international prostitution, as well as in networks of human trafficking.
- the miles and violence that women suffer every day by going to work, taking the public transport, by going to their grocery store." 

An article on objectifying men: "There’s a widely-accepted concept in academia called the male gaze, which is the idea that TV shows, movies, advertisements and any other sort of media you can think of are specifically created to satisfy a straight, male audience.

If you’ve ever noticed a movie camera linger a little bit longer on a female body or advertisements in which women are dressed provocatively for seemingly no reason, that’s the male gaze at work. It creates a culture in which men are always assumed to be the consumer of media. It creates a culture in which men do the looking and women are looked at, in which men are the subjects and women are the objects.

Since men are literally in control of the majority of media behind the scenes, the concept makes a lot of sense."

The phrase "He's the man for the job." This was used in reference to Tom Mulcair. 

Unable to deny a lesbian couple a marriage license, a West Virginia deputy county clerk settled for telling the women that their relationship was wrong and would be judged by God. The women also say the clerk called them “an abomination.” The clerk denies that part, but merrily told a local reporter that yes, God told her to berate those ladies trying to get married.

According to this really disappointing report from the Associated Press, Meryl Streep just put her foot in her mouth in the worst way. When responding to a reporter’s question about the all-white panel at the Berlin International Film Festival, Streep–the jury’s current president–dismissed concerns about diversity, saying “we’re all Africans, really.” You hear that? That’s a record scratch.

A woman writes. "Not into Cosplay, but Halloween has been kinda ruined for women. For a very similar reason."

Image of Misa on Wheels. Text: "Cosplay is getting to be more corrupt as it becomes more mainstream. It's becoming more about looking like a Victoria's Secret model and being bullied if you don't. I, for one, am tired of it. Cosplayers are being told, verbally or otherwise, that they need to look a certain way to do what they love. Cosplay is not a beauty contest. Society has done enough harm to the issue of body image. Lets keep it out of the cosplay community."

"I'm surprised you're a feminist (things women are tired of hearing on dates). If you're surprised someone's a feminist because she is polite and diplomatic and doesn't seem to hate men or practice witchcraft, you don't understand feminism. (Not that there's anything wrong with practicing wicca, but why the erroneous assumption about a person's religious practices? Not so good.) Given that a feminist is somebody who believes in gender equality, you should be surprised if someone isn't a feminist. This statement can insult your date by promoting unfair stereotypes."

"It started as a collective expression of pride. A group of young women at the School for Creative Studies in Durham, N.C., decided to wear head wraps—also called geles—to align with and honor their culture at the start of Black History Month.

Instead, they say, administrators warned that they were in violation of the dress code and threatened them with suspension. They were given the choice to wear the geles only in a way that allowed their hair to show or to remove them altogether. According to the policy, “hats, caps, hoods, sweat bands and bandannas or other head wear worn inside [the] school building” are impermissible, but it details nothing about garments worn in accordance with cultural tradition."

A client is forced to say she had a miscarriage in front of a business meeting when an HR person won't stop pressing as to why she was "too sick" to attend a meeting. When she says she had a miscarriage, the HR person then goes "Well, did you know you were pregnant when you took the job?"

A client is dating a guy from the internet. They've gone out twice. He constantly asks her what time she got home the night before, makes sure she isn't out late, and quizzes her about stuff when she says she's been somewhere.

“I’ve gotten everything from, ‘You’re selfish for not wanting children,’ ‘Your childhood must have been terrible if you don’t want to have children.’”
But Seeley is far from alone. Almost 20 percent of American women end their childbearing years without giving birth and the “childless by choice” movement includes actress Cameron Diaz and comedian Chelsea Handler, who both recently opened up about their decisions."

"I get to a point where the comments – and even the occasional violent threat – become routine. I joke about them. I think of them as a strange badge of honour, like I’m in some kind of club. The club for women who get threats from men.

It’s not really funny."

"A man walks into an Amish school, tells all the little girls to line up against the chalkboard, and starts shooting.

A man walks into a sorority house and starts shooting.

A man walks into a theatre because the movie was written by a feminist and starts shooting.

A man walks into Planned Parenthood and starts shooting."

"On my eighteenth birthday my cousin takes me out clubbing. While we’re dancing, a man comes up behind me and starts fiddling with the straps on my flouncy black dress. But he’s sort of dancing with me and this is my first time ever at a club and I want to play it cool, so I don’t say anything. Then he pulls the straps all the way down and everyone laughs as I scramble to cover my chest.

At a concert a man comes up behind me and slides his hand around me and starts playing with my nipple while he kisses my neck. By the time I’ve got enough wiggle room to turn around, he’s gone.

At my friend’s birthday party a gay man grabs my breasts and tells everyone that he’s allowed to do it because he’s not into girls. I laugh because everyone else laughs because what else are you supposed to do?

Men press up against me on the subway, on the bus, once even in a crowd at a protest. Their hands dangle casually, sometimes brushing up against my crotch or my ass. One time it’s so bad that I complain to the bus driver and he makes the man get off the bus but then he tells me that if I don’t like the attention maybe I shouldn’t wear such short skirts."

"I want to stand up for myself and tell these men off, but I am afraid. I am angry that I’m such a baby about it. I feel like if I were braver, they wouldn’t be able to get away with it. Eventually I screw up enough courage and tell a man to leave me alone; I deliberately keep my voice steady and unemotional, trying to make it sound more like a command than a request. He grabs my wrist and calls me a fucking bitch.

After that I don’t talk back anymore."

"I am fourteen and my classmate’s mother is killed by her boyfriend. He stabs her to death. In the newspaper they call it a crime of passion. When she comes back to school, she doesn’t talk about it. When she does mention her mother it’s always in the present tense – “my mom says” or “my mom thinks” – as if she is still alive. She transfers schools the next year because her father lives across town in a different school district.

Passion. As if murder is the same thing as spreading rose petals on your bed or eating dinner by candlelight or kissing through the credits of a movie."

"Later that same year a man walks into Montreal’s École Polytechnique and kills fourteen women. He kills them because he hates feminists. He kills them because they are going to be engineers, because they go to school, because they take up space. He kills them because he thinks they have stolen something that is rightfully his. He kills them because they were women."

Tweet: "My favorite part of these 'you're just voting for Hillary because she's a woman' accusations is the implication that men haven't been passing over women arbitrarily in favor of men for the entire span of human civilization."

Article on the history of violence as experienced by a girl: "
I am six. My babysitter’s son, who is five but a whole head taller than me, likes to show me his penis. He does it when his mother isn’t looking. One time when I tell him not to, he holds me down and puts penis on my arm. I bite his shoulder, hard. He starts crying, pulls up his pants and runs upstairs to tell his mother that I bit him. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about the penis part, so they all just think I bit him for no reason."

A man comment's on a woman's blog post about living in fear of attack. "Looks like you need them again, because they are true more then ever with this piece. Most of these fears are fears you have created yourself so you can live in your own little whiny paralyzed victim-hood existence and demand special attention and sympathy. Most of the listed analyses you do in your head about all these situations … is something almost everyone of every gender does in their head all the time. No one things its special (besides you) because it isn’t.
There ARE more important things and real issues, but dealing with them would require you to wake up and face reality. This would take away your special victim credit and attention which you have worked so hard to cultivate. Thus you must keep that from happening. Hence this piece you have written here to try and wave away the important questions you get asked “every single time” while still pretending to be magnanimous instead of a just a common place narcissist with a victim complex you have enslaved yourself to."

"We have all learned, either by instinct or by trial and error, how to minimize a situation that makes us uncomfortable. How to avoid angering a man or endangering ourselves. We have all, on many occasions, ignored an offensive comment. We’ve all laughed off an inappropriate come-on. We’ve all swallowed our anger when being belittled or condescended to." A woman talks about the one thing all women have learned. 

A woman blogs: "There’s this thing that happens whenever I speak about or write about women’s issues. Things like dress codes, rape culture and sexism. I get the comments: Aren’t there more important things to worry about? Is this really that big of a deal? Aren’t you being overly sensitive? Are you sure you’re being rational about this?"

A man comments on a post asking people not to make fun of women who care about their appearance. "hen your quest in vanity absconds your health, yea I'm gonna call you out, probably repeatedly"

Tweet: "Step 1: Comment on a woman's attractiveness on every single occassion in every single venue no matter how irrelevant it is. Build up a dating culture entirely dependent on female beauty. Teach children that only attractive women will only get anywhere in life, will ever be praised, will ever find love and have a family, will ever have a chance at happiness, are worth knowing, are worth being.

Step 2: Mock women for caring how they look. Call them shallow."

Image of John Fugelsang. Text says: "Helpful tip--if the news your watching ever mentions what Hillary Clinton is wearing you're not actually watching news."